I attended this morning a breakfast meeting at the Orange Grove Center, a service agency here in Chattanooga for persons with various physical and developmental challenges. The Center provides training, classes and group homes. The organization runs recycling for the City of Chattanooga, entirely staffed by clients. I was invited to the meeting by friends of mine who have a son in one of the group homes.
While I listened to speakers outlining the goals and programs of Orange Grove, I thought of that young man, and of a little girl from long ago in my extended family. When I was fourteen, my mother re-married, into a large and close-knit family, at one stroke providing my sisters and me with a small army of step-cousins and uncles and aunts. At family gatherings, held frequently, one of the cousins was always Jane.
I don’t know the details of Jane’s condition, but the challenges she faced were formidable. Phsically, she could do pretty much what any child could, but developmentally, she remained a very young child, never mastering speech, needing constant supervsion to keep her safe. Her family loved her. All the extended family loved her. Her parents were able to keep her at home; I don’t remember if she ever participated in any Orange Grove programs.
Although Jane could not speak, she had no trouble communicating. At every gathering, her cousins flocked around her, and her face was wreathed in beautiful smiles and her infectious laugh could be heard like a bubbling stream of joy. Everybody showered love on Jane, and she returned it in double measure.
Jane did not live to physical maturity, the problems of whatever had limited her development gradually affected her health, and at eleven or twelve, I don’t remember exactly after so many years, Jane died. She suffered a panic attack, which precipitated heart failure. Her physical heart failed, but her wordless love and joy carried on in the family; I am sure it does still, although I am no longer in contact with many of my steps.
Some lives may seem limited by the sort of circumstances that faced Jane and her family, but I can guarantee that not one person who knew her felt that life was not a gift for Jane, and for her family. Orange Grove exists to facilitate that gift for each client, and their families.